Is this saying true? Does it mean anything? If you’re married like I am then I guess it can have meaning. I don’t judge how my marriage is doing based off if I am happy or not, that would be pretty selfish. Since just starting this blog I figured it would be fitting for me to write about being a wife who is extremely happy, but can’t stand this saying!
I’ve heard my husband say it before, half joking, “Happy Wife, Happy Life!” I feel bad for men that this saying even exists. Its the same as saying life is all good as long as your wife is happy. How unfair for the husband! What about his happiness? Nobody cares about their guys? People need to bring in the same fire they had for their significant other when they first met.
When a relationship starts out each person is so curious about the other and they go on dates and flirt and have a blast together. As time goes on and routine sets in, the couple starts to become uninterested in each other and more interested in their own desires. This is why it’s SO important to still make time for dates and alone time together. Make it fun. Pretend it’s still the beginning! Where are the rules saying this is not allowed? I love doing this with my husband it has made us remain crazy passionate about each other. It also creates the desire within us to want to serve each other. Especially when we are caring about each other’s needs and respectful, as we were in the beginning when we met.
I believe firmly that marriage works best when each person is selfless as much as possible. We need to be there to correct each other’s wrongs and when we are the one in the wrong, accept ownership the best we can and swallow some pride. Not an easy thing to do! Should be done though if one wants to fight for their marriage to last.
Anyone who commits their life to someone else should understand there will always be your spouses opinions and input on important decisions. Marriage is not lasting these days because people are only in it for themselves. Sure, there are other reasons but it all comes down to expectations not being met.
Marriage should not be a one way street. It’s not okay for my husband to become just a person who is in my life to fulfill my every need and vice versa. Treat your spouse with some dignity, mercy, and love. Forgive them for messing up, they are human! Strong women need to let the little things go and realize men are not perfect. Life is too short to be bitter and the ones closest to us deserve our utmost respect like they did when we first met them!